helping high-ability adults thrive

When individuals with high ability fully understand their difference, knowing who they are and who they are not, they gain strength, confidence, and resilience. From then on it’s a matter of building skills—of getting smart about being smart. Once equipped, they find that the world in which they must make their way is far more manageable.

- Mary-Elaine Jacobsen

Therapy

 

High-ability adults can encounter the same life challenges that anyone can encounter, but additionally they have certain unique characteristics that significantly affect their lives and which they often hide or try to dismiss, or which are misinterpreted by themselves and others.  When not understood and well managed, these can damage rather than enhance the possibility of prospering.  A therapist who is educated about and understanding of this can make an enormous difference in a high-ability adult’s life.

 

We offer therapy (counselling/psychotherapy) as a valuable resource of fully discreet and confidential personal consultation with a highly attentive trained professional, where you are free to say anything at all without judgment or repercussions. This might include finding a way to speak about things you have never put into words before.

 

Contact us for an initial appointment where we will listen carefully to what has brought you to us and work out together with you how best to proceed. At all times we respect your autonomy and independence and our approach will not be simplistic, intrusive or patronising. We work with adult individuals, couples and groups.

- The Eagles

...fortune smiles on some and lets the rest go free.

Our therapists all have membership, registration and/or accreditation with one or more of the following professional organisations:

 

 

All our therapists abide by the BACP’s Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling

Testimonial:

 

“This has been one of the most difficult periods of my life and I cannot be grateful enough that I found you. I do feel like a different person from the one that walked into your place only some months ago (they could be decades for the difference I feel).”

A common factor amongst people who have high ability - regardless of in which domain – is that they usually become noticed for this, usually (but not always) during childhood, and this can lead to the following sorts of issues:

 

  • How you are treated: being set apart as somehow different from others; being subjected to the pressures of others’ high expectations; being related to for what you can do rather than for who you are; receiving attention and admiration (including fame and celebrity); meeting with derision, hostility and/or obstructiveness.

 

  • Own experience: experiencing ‘out of sync’ communication difficulties with others; feeling an outsider; being fearful of fully developing your abilities (fear of failure, or success); experiencing performance anxiety and/or success anti-climax; feeling bad for doing better at things or finding things easier than others do (‘gifted guilt’); feeling your attainments have somehow been fraudulent (‘imposter syndrome’).

 

  • Challenges: managing your tendencies for sensitivity, excitability, intensity, impatience, and perfectionism; learning to relate appropriately with others who have different abilities from your own; dealing with praise, envy, and threat; striving to find where you best fit in; being put in the position of teacher or leader whether or not you want it or feel equipped to handle it; issues of time-management and managing stress, pressure, impact and power; coping with success and with failure; grappling with the choices and responsibility involved in how to use high ability well.

 

These sorts of issues might be experienced mildly or severely enough to cause debilitating frustration, anxiety, and depression.

  +44 20 8883 0361 / +44 7854 366 871      contact@equippedconsulting.co.uk      12 Harley Street, London W1G 9PG

© D Falck 2014